What's really not the same?

A few of my co workers and I were talking at work and the conversation somehow moved to weddings & wedding pictures. Because I didn't have any pictures here at work, I went to one place that I knew they existed. I announced to them that they may need to bring a box of kleenex, then began the video tribute that my wife put together for me and posted on her blog back in December, 2007.

I'll be honest, there were quite a few ooos & ahhhs. Then one young lady that I believe was married for less than five years came over from the next row to comment about hearing my wife say that she honored me.

She mentioned that in her wedding vows, she told the minister that she would or didn't want to say honor & obey. I was trying to explain to her what I thought was meant by honoring, especially in a marriage relationship. She still couldn't budge. I tried to explain to them (her in particular) that I was not an iron fisted man, demanding to be honored.

I think what they also heard was the loving way in which my wife's voice spoke her words.

In response to something she said, the other man among the four of us mentioned that yes, it does help if a woman would stroke a man's ego some.

I tried to explain that yes, a man likes to feel admired, respected and special in in sense of "importance".

Of course, that varies in accordance with each man, but, give it a try, and see how he responds.

I don't know she says, referring to the guy she is currently dating, he seems to have enough ego for both of us.

Fear

I remember seeing the movie Murder in The First with Kevin Bacon. He was sentenced to prison in Alcatraz, then spent 1,000 days in solitary confinement. The max sentence was supposed to be 19 days. There was a scene that I don't remember verbatim, but Bacon's character, Henri Young exclamed that he didn't want to be afraid anymore!

FEAR says you have little skill
alvin says you haven’t seen my work

FEAr says I own you
alviN says I cannot doubt Me because of you

FEar say I’m sure you won’t make it
alvIN says, I’m sure I will try again

Fear says what makes you think you can
alVIN says, I have too many gifts to stop

fear says, I’m gonna mess with someone else, maybe I’ll just watch you
aLVIN says I am too perfectly and wonderfully made by God to fear you

ALVIN says I know you didn’t leave completely, but, I will remember that I did make you afraid of me!